How many times in our lives do we think we have it all together when out of nowhere we get slammed with some force greater than what’s in our control, showing us differently?
We go from contentment to what seems like muddling around in a cess pool. In the blink of an eye, everything we knew as normal is suddenly up in smoke.
Our world as we know it is spiralling out of control and we didn’t even see it coming.
But what if we are looking at it from an angle that in fact does not serve us and in reality things are spiralling into control?
Is it possible for you, now, to step out of the cess pool and back away from it and just watch and trust? And more-so, trust yourself to handle it, whatever it is.
Will you give yourself permission to back up long enough to witness what may very well be a life enhancing event?
Can you allow yourself to, rather than resist what is happening, welcome it?
It very well may be, the more we try to control things, the less control we actually have. That in fact, the control we think we have is nothing but an illusion.
My question to you is, if you are unable to let things happen and deal with them as they arise, in other words, you feel like you are losing control, spiralling, because things are happening that you did not plan, where in your person do you feel out of control?
Don’t blame your kids for not listening. Don’t blame your parents. Just don’t blame. Take responsibility and follow it back to it’s origin.
Let me give you a mild but classic example. I say classic because in talking to many people over the years (including myself) this is so very common. Your child is coming shopping with you and he/she has on mismatched clothes. You instruct them to change before you go. They get upset because they like what they are wearing. You then order them to change or you do it for them. Now you are pissed because they don’t listen and they are throwing a tantrum.
Finally you make it out the door. You feel horrible and so does kid. You are flipping between feeling guilt and anger. Anger that you are the parent and kid doesn’t listen and guilt because you know the real reason all this happened was more about you than what the child was wearing.
You didn’t want to be judged. You didn’t want someone to look at your child’s mismatched clothes and judge you.
All it takes sometimes to ‘spiral out’ is something as small as this. Or a series of small events like this.
But, if you were to take a different view of spiralling, perhaps it would change your entire perception.
If you were to look at the things in life that spiral naturally, in fact cannot and do not exist without spiralling, that may create enough meaning for you to finally let go of the idea that spiralling is bad.
Below is a list of things that do not survive or exist without spiralling.
Human hair from crown
Goat with spiral horns
Honestly the list could go on and on…
Now, realizing all that nature offers that spirals, can you appreciate how spiralling may be a miracle in the making?
I promise you this, if you will go back in your mind to a time when your life seemed to be spiralling, and view it with honesty and clarity, you will find at the end of it came a better understanding of something. You either gained something of value (not necessarily material things) or you lost something that was not serving you.
I hope now, spiralling has new meaning to you.