We pass judgment on almost everything. We don’t think we do, but I happens. For most of us it is unconscious, we don’t even realize we are doing it. We are used to thinking a certain way, or our beliefs are so strong we cannot even conceive there is a different way. Or, we don’t trust ourselves enough to have empathy for a situation and rather follow the voice of others.
We all have an inner critic, and there are some who get paid big bucks to state their opinions out loud. When they do, because they are on TV or the radio, we agree and say it must be so.
These people are getting a paycheck. They put their pants on one leg at a time just like us. As for the celebrities, who makes them celebrities? We do. Certainly they have talent but we are buying the product they have to offer. That’s it. This doesn’t make them a ‘guru’ in every area they speak about. We have simply allowed them the forum in which to speak to millions of people, and share their opinion.
I am all about having an opinion, Lord knows that has never been a weak point of mine. The difference I am speaking about is the ability to be flexible to see another side to any situation. To understand why someone thinks the way they do or why they do the things they do. And that can be the hard part when we are confronted with situations that make us feel uncomfortable.
Everyone wants to be accepted. That’s it. Kids are in gangs for the same reason. We don’t understand this so we judge. I have judged.
When we trust ourselves, we have empathy. We have an understanding and knowingness that people are good inside and they are doing only what they know, have been taught, or the only thing that works for them to get the acceptance they so desperately desire.
The other day I heard a quote from a clothing designer I believe it was. He said about the singer ‘Adele’, “She has a good voice but she’s too fat”.
Really? Who the hell cares? She has talent. Isn’t that what we should be realizing rather than tearing down the talent to find the flaws? Is this how you feel acceptance buddy, by publicly ridiculing a perfectly beautiful person?
But, again, this is just my opinion. My judgement.
Then there is the death of our Military men. So many want to scream and holler at the government for killing our soldiers. I understand that, and the point I am making is simply this. The soldiers died doing what they love. As unfortunate as this is for their families, they will attest to this. I was involved in the Military life for 12 years. Most of these men volunteered to go overseas. (In Canada) They fully understand the risks. But not only once, they go repeatedly.
And how about the death of skiier Sara Burke. A lot of opinion and judgement about her untimely young death. I agree it is very sad. An expert at her sport, yet she died because of it. Again, the point being she loved it. She was living, alive while she walked her 29 years on this earth while the rest of us sit on our couches, eating potato chips, wishing we were living our dream.
Next time you hear someones opinion, or chose to make one yourself, find the place it is coming from and ask yourself if it is possible to see things from another perspective.
We are all raised different. We all interpret things differently, so shouldn’t we save our opinion and trust in ourselves enough to know what is good for us, and trust in others that they know what is good for them?
When we know better, we do better. Mia Angelou